Sandy on what is going on with her business and what she has to offer

saraphina and I were in a entrepreneurial book club where Stephanie never read the right book and Stephanie was terrible at this book CL I really Su up CL I did not fabulous I'm what I just had a visual proud of it hold on hey lady how you doing good how snuggle up to that microphone and get closer start you can move it around too good morning everybody what's going on happy Monday to you I love Mondays not in a morning already I Tori over my microphone just stopped working in the middle of the podcast I'm like they're done we're done nobody wants to hear us gossip anymore show over I know so right next to me I've got and who you and I go back 20 plus years I'd say so yeah right welcome to the show thank you thank you for having I know where did we even start do we really I'm your I was your neighbor I live down the street you honestly you've been you've seen every incarnation of Stephanie you've seen every mination of my family this house and I I've seen every mination of Sandy remember that this is true yeah right so talk to everybody about where where it is you're currently at a Wellness Center yeah you built a Wellness Center you're not just there that's true so like talk about like what it is that you're doing right now a lot of massage a lot of massage no um let's see I have 38 certificates now she loves school I do you're good you know what I mean I feel like that's something to be said for a lifelong learner you're always in constant pursuit of getting better I am I'm back doing taxes again anybody need your taxes done I'm here it's slow on the cap I feel like that's the life of an entrepreneur though I feel like that that is what you set out to do a as you're growing as you're getting better and uh you've got all these skills that you've amassed that's true but for yourself well I technically I have fibromyalgia and I used to be disabled and I decided to get off that and by learning about myself and what I needed to do I'm able to now help others lose weight um I personal train I teach yoga on the beach I teach many other classes at my shop um I teach trampoline which you've taken so fun so deadly for me um pound Zumba cardio drum I've even done that on the beach um we were swimming for a while till that get shut down we won't talk you know what you live and you learn there is something that uh this woman next to me never gets down you know what I mean everybody you get in your space where you're like oh I can't do it I can't make it I can't this and you'll wallow in that for for like five seconds and then you're like well bleep this I could do this myself I'm just going to do it um it's a mindset that you have that I I really am always in awe of yeah do you remember when I lived down the street and I would try to get you to go exercise and you'd like be hiding from me no I'm asleep you wouldn't even open the door no I'm asleep I'm dead but I knew the trick to how to get in and get you going that's it till the day you made me run and you made me puke and then you made me continue to run with your military statuses unbelievable so fun you like how I switch it though it's about you not about me right I I know I see I see what you're working with right there even these microphones remember when I used to give you that fake microphone and you got this you are definitely unique in the space of you see where you can do better I really love that I really do because I think it's just a wonderful thing that you have and I think that you're bringing that to people I was in so many my low spaces Sandy was really right there and I really appreciate you you're really there when people at their Lowe's you took care of a dear friend of ours uh bunny until the end of her days and uh I know I know and and where she was sick and her body shut down and she was no longer and you massaged her and you were the person that was there for her a lot for her body needs and uh you you're really good when it comes to things where people are in need where they're hurting you slide in you're good you're good like that I remember how we did the ALS Bucket Challenge we put that ice on us I had no clue what ALS was about good morning Miss Emily no well that's the thing it you don't know until you're directly affected by something and then you're prominently aware of things um you have dealt with addiction you've dealt with people with addiction you've dealt with I I feel like every space in which somebody needs something you're there and not only are you there to like pick it up but you're there to learn something about it and get a skill life lessons right yeah is that what it is 100% so all of these skills that you have masked and someone from the outside could be like oh what are they doing what are they trying but I feel like that's the life of an entrepreneur you're always getting better you're always learning a skill and you're always growing from a space and I feel like this is why you are here you've been brought here to help people when I was at my lowest I lost my space on on on the dial and I was at my absolute lowest and I didn't know what I was going to do with my life and I didn't know where I was going to go and I needed a surgery on my feet and you were like so amazing you're like this is a place to exercise you should be doing dejing you're not okay like this get up move your body I'm gonna rub your feet I'm gonna throw you in this pool I'm going to make you physically feel better so that you can mentally feel better and you were that person for me and I thank you for that no I really I truly and I absolutely mean it it is important to thank people uh and you know I'm not very you know me I'm not really good at feelings and fuzzies hey you just got me back for getting me the job at puffer bellies remember thanks oh dear God you're GNA throw that in my face until the end of time you wanted that job Miss oh yes I remember you introducing me to Sunny this is gonna be a great job for you Sandy listen we needed to make money at the time and it was a good bar and it was good people and we liked music and we liked dancing that's right I get to pick an outfit out every day at Fashion Bug every day Fashion Bug Fashion Bug so then you know what was it Wednesday night Russian night right Thursday night was what I don't even remember I don't even remember Sunday night was Brazilian night that's when I started to learn Portuguese a lot of good ad thatted you two Portuguese husbands later at least you got a better language Hey listen you let me borrow your wedding dress you djed and then you even got up the next day and you ran the fouth road race listen this woman if you want to know where the bones are buried she knows them all so point you to the graves but we did it yes we really did we both have really good business really you know what pretty exciting to see where where you've come I have this conversation with my daughter about it's not it's not a race of where you're gonna end she's really panicked she's a senior this year laica yeah she's a senior in high our baby is a senior in high school this year yeah people don't realize I was her nanny at some point and she went fishing and she hooked herself with the hook and we still talk about that you know what though what is coming out is all of the old videos of memories on Facebook and my mother-in-law tagged me one of her and Cody when they were like one and five and I was just like so cute but good God the haircuts the outfits she just wrote her senior bio or whatever and she's like my mom used to call me Lily Gaga with the outfits this child used to wear good God Almighty maker of heaven and Earth she used to eat with her feet oh oh my God she was truly feral she was truly feral I shouldn't really tell never hear the end but it's so wonderful to see what it I mean wait until you see what an awesome human she really is she is and so like really really kind really really together and I'm excited for her to start this new chapter of her life but she's got all these bizarre experiences and she's truly thankful for all of them because she was you know raised in entertainment that little shmear it's right it's pure comedy over here uh she'll be very versatile that's what we'll say she can handle everything so I feel like yes in all of these incarnations of Sandy she is available for taxes right now however what you do well is heal people you when I met you were in um not the happiest of spaces of your life and wanting to make some serious changes and and you made those changes and you started just getting these certificates of wellness and getting yourself fixed first your body your mind your life your your your surroundings it was like one thing you were almost like checking this list off of your life of like okay got that out of the way got this out of the way all this while dealing with your fibromyalgia so maybe talking a little bit about your you know overcoming that mental physical hurdle right yeah because people don't would never believe I have fiber myalgia never they're like yeah right I'm like it is a mind over matter and it is learning about yourself and eating the right Foods um they talk I call them the Shady vegetables okay right even though you I think it's funny why I do it the tomatoes and you know eggplant and peppers and onions your night shades they're bad Tom Brady won't have them there's a reason yes so eating those do cause flareups um losing weight because people always you know it's when people come in you want to say you know you don't want to tell them they're fat but you have to say if you have a little extra pounds it could put pressure on your feet which is why you have you know plop faciitis or heel spurs or etc etc and learning how to take the right calories and not having flow and sugar because it doesn't help right we all know we like them yeah but it doesn't help us they're as bad as crack cocaine she means it I do I do I do and I do take it it's not like I don't you know um but bunny was one that really helped me I mean not at the beginning but she's part of my journey because with her ALS and calling me up one day and saying listen I'm dying I need you to massage me till I die what kind of request is that that's that's crazy so I did every Monday night I went to hyenes and I massaged her two three hours Mike was there and we just talked and gossiped and talked and laughed and I put her in one of the mermaid tales I had and tried to enjoy her I mean I was afraid of death so much so of course Universe has to put that in my life to to learn about it and um and it was hard but to watch her not be able to move her arms when she was like the one we used to take spin class with that would kick our ass I know and to see that it's just so sad and it's wild if you knew bunny as a person how regimented she was in her food and her diet and her supplements like she was always very good at taking care of her body and it's wild to me that the Universe decided that we're gonna take that body away from you it's it's hypocritical it's it's crazy it's really messed up that she she' be like did you eat today here's her I know I know you know abs are made in the kchen you know I mean it was it's true though and she did that to both of us remember Thanksgiving we'd go was her spin class and I know I had that new watch and I and it told me that I was gonna die I threw it across the room fit [ __ ] we're done with you not having it so it was just so learning from her and having her you know right to the end coaching me she told me to promise her two things and I looked at her like what and she said I want you get a divorce check okay let's check it again we won't say anymore of that okay and it did it and then she also said I want you to do a bodybuilding competition shck and sure enough I did and I had hated weights and she knew it every time I tried to even oh they they make you isn't that funny because you have fibromyalgia it's painful to lose weight it's painful to work out people don't realize that but it is a mind thing in you do eventually have to learn to I don't know you say suck it up but you have to learn to just deal be uncomfortable it's really difficult to just suck in the uncomfortable right so I I did two things with that I got myself a hot tub you know it's a blowup one y like 800 bucks so I found a solution that was reasonable so I can soak and I got an inred sauna that I actually Bartered with one of my clients to get you know what I mean so so when people say to me now I can't afford it I was like if there's a will there's a way yeah we make it happen absolutely so um so I was able to make it so that I could work and I remember I started with massage school at my house um I would work on people I would say h in maybe five a week you know and if I could handle it and then I opened the shop um first I did yoga on the beach and that was cute my grandson would help me out of the back of my car so cute yep that was just an idea at my time share I sat there and I said hm I wonder if they'd let me teach in the pool you know it's just ideas like you said I I like ideas well I love that you're not afraid to try something I think that that's really important no matter what age you are is to get out of your comfort zone and try it at least to see if you're gonna if it's going to work for you and you're you're fierce when it comes to stuff like that you're like I'll try it yeah I screw up though you know you have to you have to that's the underbelly of what we do as entrepreneurs is not talk about the stuff that we screw up at because I think it's important because every time that you fail there's a a nugget of information in there let's try not to do that again or this didn't work out because of this let's not do that again you have to talk about the fails it's not fun it's true do do you remember when I opened up Olivia's business her little business so she was slime that was a joke though no she started at 6 she wanted the cell phone oh that's it we did Olivia Wiggly Worms and I bought her the worm 360 and we got her some worms and we have the boat the boat ramp in our backyard so she was selling to the fisherman you know three $3 for a dozen the problem is we didn't learn enough that they don't like mint they don't like sun so she she went one day to get the worms and they weren't there all they were gone they're done yeah so that was a mess up the worms quit so I thought oh I talked my ex-husband and get in a Pedic cat and we will just go up and down the canal because I couldn't stand when he was fishing we were like bored you know I like to exercise yeah so I said I'll pedal the petty cab make her sell tackle while he's fishing so we buy the petty cab I talk them into buying the petty cab and then we find out it's it's owned by the government yeah right can't you can't even have a lemonade stand they kicked a kid out sorry in her backyard okay so now I got this Petty cab what do I do with it so I have you know great clients that give me ideas right so now I use my Petty cab and ride to the beach to go teach that has been going on for a long time though if you've seen Sandy in her Petty cab definitely now you know connect this Little Mermaid with the woman that you've seen in Falmouth in the Heights beach with the lights at night with the lights at night that's it going around giving people rides cycling her clients to the beach I because it was screw up from my daughter trying to sell T can you believe it but we turned it into something that it works and but that's what lemonade is all about that's it making the lemonade in weird bad spaces and I feel like you are the queen of it I feel like you really are you could sell lemon a in the back of my Petty cab while I ride around get it done everybody talk on your on my megaphone you should see the big megaphone my husband bought me love it it's perfect it goes along with what it is that we do I I love what you're doing right now for pain management I think it's important just like when you look for somebody for advice you want somebody that's been through it right when you've when you are looking for champions of the things that you need you look for someone that has done it has overcome it and is on the other side helping others bringing them with you you've overcome your pain management and now you're helping people with pain management in all aspects of things I know you remind me because when someone looks at you and they try to give you advice about kids and they don't have kids you just look at them like okay yeah right okay sure sounds great oh your daughter wants a $900 prom dress okay still think you know we could be looking over at the oh know I know when kids get it said in their minds it's one of those but I decided to give the child what she wants she feels good and wonderful for there but she there's a cost to that she's doing a lot of gigs this summer and it's happening she does though she helps the family business both of my kids are always working they're happy to help other people they really truly enjoy what it is that we do because it's Community work so it's not it's not heavy lifting when you're also having fun I mean there there's always aspects to every job it's called work for a reason sometimes it stinks I mean Olivia saved my business during Co I don't know what what I was going to do and she goes mom Zoom hell so she set it up and I taught classes for free for a year they gave me the a wellness certificate or something another one right no an award actually it was award and um and I taught online and it was so much fun and it was fun to see like sisters that were one in a completely different state to be able to work out together it was a lot of fun so she did she helped me out and um she keeps I keep saying man we got to do more you know Tik Tok or more stuff she's like Mom Tik tok's going to be B soon I was like all right well let's do YouTube then um let's do Snapchat let's do you know what I mean I know so she's good at trying to help me with have you ever seen some of her commercials no she's like she makes bug spray and deodorant andl apparently I have to hire her to do some work for me better for her to work for you than me right oh isn't that isn't that the way though she's awesome she's she's she's amazing she's so smart she just got into upper Cape Tech that's awesome I'm really grateful what is she going for she wants to do cosmetology she says she's going to work in the back of my shop okay but she should be an you know electrical engineer she she's brilliant well you know Lily did that for one year and quit too gossipy didn't like it couldn't where yeah isn't that where the Mean Girls Go that was it she was just like I couldn't do it I was like you don't say but I was glad that she took that no thank you taste she tried it for a year and here she is graduating from ashp so it's like you know what I mean I you have to let them make their own mistakes and not tell them how to fix it you have to watch it painfully the second thing she wants to do is carpentry Jesus was a carpenter it's Holy Week everybody she's gonna build my house over because it's falling apart I keep opening cabinets and they just go Emily that's what I did cosmetology then went to massage school see you have to I mean you have to decide if you like this do I want to do this forever is this a for now did I get this out of my system true during the pandemic I worked with a veterinarian I was like I'm gonna go be a veterinari can you imagine did you I did I did for a full almost two years me and Doc Newman I was like where was I this is what I'm gonna do I was still doing the radio stuff and I was still doing all the other things but I'm like I truly thought maybe this might be my calling it is not not the one Stephanie I know oh my God but here I was like rethinking I might do all of this stuff and that's CRA like that's just crazy I have my bachelor's degree from suffk see five years it took me as a single mom to do that but I got it but you know what I do use it because that's my business sense you know so I have a lot of massage therapists that come to me and say oh I got to do you know my taxes or the the book keeping and so I was like oh will you just do you know and I didn't realize I have that installed in the marketing right all the fun marketing right and all the ideas so I mean everything you do and learn does help it doesn't go to waste right look my mom's a math teacher and I purposely would Fong math but I'm really good at geometry but she was always a math teacher right you know this is it my mom was a nurse she's always been like she's a nurse and that's what nurses do and I feel like all of us are not the one thing because our we live too long for that but the geometry I'm really good at pool I can hustle pool this is new this is a new fun thing for you no I started watching you I saw you doing some pool shots or whatever and I was like when did oh the pool shots yes well see what you didn't realize is I did that a long time ago I remember that though yeah I stopped doing it and then I realize because you get suppressed sometimes you know you change and and then you realize oh no I really like that what's the one thing that you would say that you've learned the most being in business for yourself that it doesn't have to be like you make a plan but it's never that plan right and so if I'm a Virgo too so if you follow that I'm married to one yeah and you I mean go get along well when you follow that plan and you get upset if you don't follow that plan that's your wasted energy you need to go wherever it goes and takes you and then in when you're way over here somewhere you look back and you're like all right is that okay or should we bring it back a little bit you know and that's what I do it's good advice to have I feel like I go through full weeks where I've worked 60 to 80 hours and I feel like I've done zero things yeah i' I know I've done a lot but it's like I feel like it's just busy work sometimes and I'm looking at what have I moved the needle at all this week have I done all of the things that I should be doing and yes it's incremental changes but I'm not very good at incremental changes I'm learning to be better and accepting of it which is not easy it's not easy no well because so people know me for doing massage and they know me for yoga on the beach but they don't realize I also do facials I teach people how to eat um I am a personal trainer and also I do waxing it sits it sits in the corner all the time we never use it yeah and I stopped teaching classes for a year because I just needed to reel it back a little bit and be like okay let's focus just on the massage I help people um I'm not a fluff and buff there's many other places for that okay but when I you know but for what I do is I help people in pain I help people to feel better I help people that have sports injuries um I do cupping I do cellulite treatment those those who you know want to feel comfortable in their skin and that are serious about it you know because everything has to work if you believe it'll work yeah but all of these come from a place that you have overcome personally this is what I'm saying it's not like you're just out here Jack of all traits because you have tried all of these things and now you are doing something new no this is a collection of stuff you wanted to learn to self-improve and also do it for yourself better than the services in which you've received over your life you know what I mean which makes total sense and yes there is parts of business that you have to do when you are still doing Wellness when you are still dealing with pain management when you're still trying to get a massage and you've got fibromyalgia right right you still have to do work business and I get up and you know sometimes I'm in so much pain but I can't say to the client when they come in oh I can't do this today or I'm going to stay in bed and I see people it's like you have to just try you try to get up you try to do the best you can and you know and the movement you hear that crack yeah I'm getting a little little older it happens though you're fine warm it up it's cold down here yeah but you have to move you move it or you lose it they say it's true you really need to move and remember when your your leg hurts so bad I just said we got to try to it you know stiffness like frozen shoulder or any of those things is not good that's how they used to do it and then they ended up remember when we were young we saw all those people in wheelchairs when they were older it's so true right now they're bionic yeah right they just got new parts like my dad's got a new lease on live raiki Flo says Lynn nice I know hey if it works for you then it works for you I mean you've tried every mination of fitness level to see what's good what works for you just to move your body you're not afraid of trying it right and I do I have sound Bowls because what people don't realize most of the time when you never had the sound bath I gotta do that I gotta do that for you so back hurt back pain what is most of the time that is emotional pain we have chakras in our body we tell that to my husband do we do we forget that we are made out of energy and sound balls are like pitch pipes for us yeah helping the seven chakras of course people now will say oh no there's eight well yeah seven eight whatever you want to say there's a higher heart so we discuss whether there's seven or eight chakras but anyways I trust in what you're telling me okay I could be bullshitting I know you totally could and here I am like okay sounds good W like a there's enough people out here to tell you you're wrong trust me it's the internet they'll find you they'll come for you I called the trolls the other day I posted something on fabulous fth and I literally looked at my clock for an hour waited to see who wanted to rent a room and then took it off before the trolls came I was like you know and sure enough someone wrote housing beware you know I'm like oh [ __ ] I used to be on housing what the hell is wrong with it it's people people can do all different things you have to decide you know you make I'm I'm proud of you don't go there no I'm I'm sincerely proud of you because you know how sensitive I Used to Be Right I'd be crying I'd be calling it's not that I know how sensitive you are I just know where you came from and where you are today and I am I am truly proud of you for everything for being in a bad situation for being in in Loveless marriages for being in a situation where you're not happy oh I'm so happy I'm so Happ it doesn't even like it doesn't have to be your day-to-day happiness I just see the tremendous growth that you only you have done for yourself well when you learn to love yourself from an outsider persp effective you know and don't and and just because there are people out there that always want to judge you there are going to be those people out there and what Sandy just said as a business person putting yourself out there to go to a town page and be like I need help uh getting the word out I need to ask for you to recognize that I'm good at this and just the exhaustion that you put yourself through to put yourself out there in the public just to have somebody be rude not mindful or say something nasty is is really upsetting this is the society in which we live in it it is really hard it's so weird because like I've been trying to be better at not going on social medias as much and they say how do you build your confidence and one of them says is not going on there and Counting how many likes and how many but when you're in business you have to do it yes so I go on and get off quickly I don't want to know I don't want to care you know what I mean and some people will call me or text me and say hey this this say said I don't care or someone's looking for a massage therapist you want to look and see how many of the no I don't there's enough of us out there you don't need to do that and you can learn to be confident um and then finding that that balance of being confident and not over cocky it's it's hard to you know yeah but people don't realize where you come from and they judge easily and it's really hard fabulous fouth was amazing that's it's like how I got most of my business and um because the town pages can be a really warm inviting space they should be that space Lynn says you speak her language but what happened is now they banned it so you only do it on Saturdays so me and my my friends we remind ourselves oh it's it's Saturday I always forget on Saturday I Saturday is the hardest day to remember business owner and you're like [ __ ] I know day Sunday I was like oh I forgot it again this week because they were it was great to to use and um and people knew me that way but oh well there's other ways face and I can go out there on my bed again it's kind of cold so I'm on here I'm on here I really am glad that we're having this conversation on a Monday and to a lot of our other audience members and all of you out there uh because we have a lot of entrepreneurs we have a lot of small businesses we've got a lot of people that are really trying to figure it out right now no matter what business you're in I had a girlfriend of mine ballet mom you I you definitely remember her and um she reached out to me because she owns restaurant she's been a restaurant owner for 30 years and she's like I I can't get people in my business I don't understand where they're going I don't understand how and everyone is struggling in their own walk and things that you thought you had a handle on for 20 30 years are no longer that way anymore people eat differently people's habits are different people don't have Expendable income you have to people don't want to wear it's it's all of the things and then I get aggravated because I don't feel like it's people don't want work I feel like people are sick of being undervalued I feel like people want to work but for a better wage or people want to work for a better circumstance so I feel like it's really hard to to find what people need when you're not being vocal right so you're not saying what you need and you're not putting it out there but when you do put it out there people rip you to shreds for it so we're in just like this really bad space of being vocal about the things that we need and then having people tear you down for saying the things that you need true well bunny was my mentor like she helped me and I didn't get paid I went all the way to hyenas she taught me everything I knew about exercise and how to become a good exercise instructor but now I'm trying to find somebody and I did post it and they're like you're not going to pay me to mentor and I was like well I mean you could get a massage you could get a facial you could you know come with me and do yoga on the beach I have other incentives and ways but yeah nobody I couldn't find anyone to mentor and I even put it in the schools to try to see if I could find somebody yeah that was interested in even learning like how it is to run a business and and and all the work because I think it could becomes glorified in some ways even at the massage school I'm going tomorrow night yeah tomorrow night there's a job fair at spartech in Plymouth and I'm going to try to find a recruitment because I have a a space in the back there that I was going to rent out out or I was going to have people come work for me well you've got this beautiful space and she's in Falmouth so if you're in the industry and you're looking for space maybe you could uh sublet from a Sandy or you can figure out a way to work together and build your business because you don't have a space I mean honestly I think you've got a lot of value in that space yeah I have and and the thing is is people just say oh no I want my own space or no I want my own I get it we all have this idea of the way we want it to run I get it this is why we're in business for ourselves and you really have to figure what you're going to sacrifice to get to where you need to go um and you have to speak the language for for yourself yeah and I think a lot of people are doing that right now I mean out of your house you have less overhead I get it but when you open up a place which I didn't mind being at home but also you got to keep the dogs quiet you got to make sure that the bathroom's clean you know all those things don't I I was I like wait a minute I'll go with flush real quick oh my God I know I I am experiencing that growing pain right now where my husband's office is across the hall from me and Emily knows cuz Emily's our office person that we yell at each other through the wall all day I'm like I got to get out of here the dog the kids I'm doing dishes I'm doing laundry I should be down here working uh and we're looking for the right space we just haven't found it yet I get space in and you know we're getting our real estate agent looking for our our true space because we need it we've got we've got storage rentals with his equipment we've got our garage full our basement's full like we just get crap everywhere and it's stressful and as you grow that's what happens and that's what happened with me and I was I have to thank Kim from Falmouth Dance Academy because I was teaching a pound class over there I went from teaching beside a pool at fouth in you know in at a hotel guys yeah yep that's what I was doing and then I was doing it at my time share at in seasons and then all of a sudden I did it at Kim's and then one day the kids weren't there and my students said wow this is really nice you know and they said oh there's space over there why don't you go look and I'm like no I can't afford that you know that's that's that fear right that we have and then I went and look and I called and I was in the next month I said I couldn't believe it so I've been there five years and I made it through covid um thankfully you know Sandy helped from um she used to work at hollberg she has her own business now so awesome yeah and she made t-shirts for me and she taught me and Olivia how to make t-shirts that was fun during Co that we could do that and then I sold gift certificates and I taught online for free and I made it through that hard time and came out I think even stronger because then you realize what you need to do and how you need to do it and how you can help people that have fears that you know don't want to get sick and some I have some people that still come with three masks on to get a massage and if that's what they need to make themselves feel better go ahead I'm not gonna you know what I mean well that's exactly it and one time there was a guy going to have an operation so he brought a mask for me and I wore it you know what whatever it takes to make people feel comfortable that's what my motto is to make people feel comfortable in their own skin and that's what I try to do because that's what I work on daily yeah right isn't that what you work on so I feel like that's the most important purpose of mine to to help others feel comfortable I mean I've gone through feeling crap like you said yeah you feeling like crap you know I always tell people when they feel like crap help somebody else yeah you know what honestly it does make you feel better totally does it's almost like a selfish thing when someone said to me one day I I saw a homeless guy and I gave him you know 10 bucks or whatever and uh they said he probably has a Mercedes down the street or it's like that's not my business right what my business was was doing that and it was more about me than him it's it's so true though I made myself feel better but do than that so that was pretty a selfish thing it wasn't being a nice giving person you know what I mean in a way but I mean it is I feel like you you feel better and you know what you help somebody today you can check that off of something you're like all right I'm I'm not really a bad person just you go through this though the crappy things we tell our inside voice is really in jerk I know mine is and you have to like be mindful of that space But you're right when you help others it does help you not everybody is like that though I feel like no I'm a weird egg no no we are those people that we we get goodness out of helping people but not everybody is like that I do have to be reminded of it my miserable pessimist husband also reminds me of that well I'm an empath so it makes it really hard and narcissist stick to me you've got two issues working against each other but now you know it it's been identified it's true once you know what you you can work on fixing it right oh my gosh I'm just so sick of people judging people in whatever space in which they're in I right I'm kidding I'm kidding I know I know it's sad it's been exhausting it's been a journey I'll tell you what I hate that word but it's been one I am proud of you though because I remember being up in the kitchen and buying you that microphone that fake microphone and being like what are you doing I right what are you doing crying having having my wake upstairs I don't even know what I'm having I don't even know what I'm doing right now I do miss the days you were lying on my bar in come come see Andy she makes the best dream we've come so far people see me now they're like grown up you know and they used to like get in to paper bellies when they shouldn't have I know and they're like it's weird to see all the neighborhood kids having kids now I feel I'm like oh my God I know you and I'm like oh yeah I had you shut up and now I own a Wellness Center so see what happens that's a we'll talk about the wellness tell talk about what the what it is that you're doing over over there and where people can find you so they can support your business and go get a damn good massage because I'll tell you what she is so good I'm not kidding so good thank you I know it is cool I do I go to Boston once a week because my clients that used to live down here couldn't find anybody even in Boston so they actually shut down my shop one day a week and I go up there and massage them in the Millennium Place awesome it's pretty neat it's kind of fun very cool it's like the mermaid leaving leaving Cape Cod and just going on a she goes a week but no so um my thumbtastic of Cape Cod is you'll see the mermaid and the nice big sign and my Patty cab out there it's um in the same place as the trade Bowl plaza where Cog Republic and fou at Dance Academy is behind Walmart you can't miss her Petty cab out front 95 spring bars Road and um you can't just show up because I'm not there if nobody's going to be there I'm not waste my time yeah I'm G to find something else to do and fix right I'm GNA do taxes never thought I'd do that again but you you know it yeah I am gonna make a schedule for exercise it's just people don't realize how hard it is that you know they say I I want you to do this I want you to do this and so you make a class and then you sit there and you twiddle your thumbs and no one comes oh well I had this to do I had this to do it's a well it's I'm bad good I know this I feel like I I found found found a place for me though oh you did but it's a group but it's a group you know what I mean you are one you are one person that can only do one thing at one time right you know what I mean so it it that's what works for you I found a group I exercise twice a week now I'm still moving my body not what the way I want to but I know I'm am in a program I've been doing it religiously since December wow so I'm like doing things I'm physically feeling better I'm moving better my feet don't hurt as B bad my knees are getting there I'm slopping off the weight very slowly because I'm just accepting my incremental challenges I'm not doing extreme shows anymore I'm not doing any physical Feats I'm not doing any Spartan races and crazy [ __ ] [ __ ] put that aside we love that stuff I I know it's super fun it's an adrenaline rush a mud race I know I'm in adrenaline junkie so I don't need that in my life I'm going slow and steady see I still couple weekends ago I went Friday night we went ice skating I was with my kid and my grandson imagine I love it you know people don't realize yeah well so am I I just had my second grandchild that I found out on Facebook I'm not gonna get there all right so I got five five grandsons don't even have any granddaughters but anyways yes we this happens so I did ice skating Friday Saturday we went roller skating and then I went out dancing with 5 in high yeah you're you're a better woman than I am I don't do that Michael next door to the old harmony Hut yes that is exactly where she is yes exactly if you need a massage if you are in pain if you are looking to better your space in the Wellness Arena I definitely suggest starting with Sandy she is amazing uh it you are a reason to spend money on yourself I know people put themselves last yeah but self-care is important and people are starting to realize that so I do have packages like I try to get more people to come more often so you can come like four weeks in a row and it's and you save a lot of money in a bundle that way because I do understand that times are tough um but I mean I have to pay my bills I can't give it for free otherwise I would the best way to get a massage is to book online because that was easiest for me thumbtastic of capecod.com you can go online and I'm gonna put the information in the chat too just in case somebody missed it or wants to or you just have it here just know that if you are pain if you need something if youve got a specific issue Sandy addresses that whether it's a dietary issue whether it's a pain Point whether it was me getting ready to have surgery on my feet and you viciously worked on that for a while in the FASA and just getting in there and like the snap crackling popping and I'm like oh my God I'm gonna die but you got me to a point where I could walk again true true so thank you you're welcome do you remember when I brought in cupping when you used to work at the race you and Dan and I was cupping you oh my gosh cupping is fun and cupping is good you know people are scared and everything's done the right way yeah you know what I mean that you fixing those muscle situations yeah you're honestly so good at that fascia gets stuck and people don't realize that and even the skinniest of people will have cellulite and they get upset and that's just F we just got to release it and get some you know circulation going and everything and I have that I have fingers that are that are strong that can break that up I also have a dermac machine I had gotten that will help and I do lymph drainage so any of the people that have had surgeries um whether it's cosmetic or if it's a necessary surgery I can help get that lymphatic drainage and get your body moving again and I love being able to do that hey Carol she said she's trying to comment on the program and she's in Costa Rica and she said she helped with my PO poly my rheumatica can she help with it oh of course of course she absolutely can come and see her when you get back from Costa Rica you look like you're having the time of your life and the weather looks fabulous she said I'm in the pool every day here and also do the exercises from therapy but it does not help so uh s put her on the list please do Jackie what's going on swim in her pool she says is that our Jackie that's our Jackie I knew she was GNA get on there jackita what's going oh yeah she even wrote jakita oh my God she's a riot she's funny she's been been around for a long time yes she has she absolutely has I know she's shocked to see us together too right hey Jackie we're here it's all good it definitely is definitely go see Sandy I'm telling you what you're going to feel better whether uh it's your feet your back your neck that's like a Kia song right to me said my neck my back or if you need a good dance this one I'll get the outfit and the receipts to prove it so I said you we can do Zumba we can do some some dancing right I was watching I took a couple of hip-hop classes yeah at my daughter's dance place Turning Point too and um and that was fun and I thought of you I said oh we should go do some hip hop I just saw a dance fairly recently a meme where somebody was like what I think I would look like when I dance and it was Shakira and then then afterwards it was definitely not Shakira I was like there I am there I am like one of those 1985 exercise videos like there that's me still do the neck right we got to do the neck that's when we used to go to Kenmore Square oh my God so many memories so much fun all right go visit thumbtastic Sandy give out the information before we leave so thumbtastic ofc capecod.com and I'm at 95 springb Road in fouth go book and appointment for massage you will not be unhappy or facial or personal training or class I mean I do a lot of things if you go online you'll see the whole history of everything that we've been doing and um I'm sure there's some way I can help you yeah the only way not to get started is to not get started so get moving your body uh Sandy have a great week thank you for coming on with me you're welcome you're always welcome back got some funny nostalgic story you want to DB out I should I we should have to do it where we have enough space where I'll make you do some class or some trampoline or something next time she'll bring the trampolines for the sticks I can deal with a little pound in my life absolutely oh my God that sounded gross we got to go I'm leaving bye everybody have a great day bye if you're listening on Lemon ado.com Hank is up next we'll talk to you soon bye oh my God see minutes I gotta go I gotta go I'm getting Punchy today oh my God that was hilarious oh my God reveal too much right oh my God who cares I'm at the point of my life where I