Saraphina on World Kindness Day and Pursuit of Happiness week; Let's get it

well hello and good morning on a Monday good morning so excited that you made it I know it's a Monday of Mondays it is it's okay though if if you were gonna have a rough Monday morning at least it ends here honestly I was so glad that I had you in the studio because it makes my Monday a little bit more happy it really does and you texted me I'm going to be late and then walked in 5 seconds later and I was like that that well that is because I was trying to I was arguing with Siri while driving here because like I'm a good person I wasn't picking up the phone while driving but I was like Siri text Stephanie and you know then it was like which Stephanie I was like right okay text Stephanie Viva like thank you and then she's like what do you want me to say and so I was like running late be there soon and then it was like what do you want me to do and I'm like send and it just kept typing the word send that I could kind of see out of the corner of my I'm like no I would like you to actively send the text so I had to wait till I got to a red light I would appreciate these virtual assistants if they did the things that we asked them to do all of the time they keep telling you AI is going to fix everything and honestly it just made my life I'm not impressed they're not there yet thus far not impressed not at all so we've got saraphina images by saraphina is her business I'm very excited to have you here because it is World kindness day it is that's so I wish I had known that before I got here though because then I would have done something extra kind and brought you a gift your presence is kind enough I'm very excited to have you it made me get up today I had a little extra spring in my step because I love to interact with you I love because you rival me in the amount of being out social oh I was rals no no no heart hands heart hands the oh with the amount of like just networking events and things and people and we crossed paths accidentally recently which was so fun it was I was at a networking event I was a guest it was a a group I'm not a member of but a friend of mine's in it and she asked me to go with her and it was at tomatos and it happened to be the magical same night she was there doing music bingo so I got to see her live in action in the wild yeah right which I had never actually had the opportunity to do and it was happen stance yeah and we had a good time and thank you for playing along and you got your and so I'm at the table and we're we're playing the game and the song from the movie Ghost comes on and everyone at my table goes this is the song from the movie Ghost and no one could remember the title of the song and I'm looking at my board and I find it and I check it off and they're all looking at me like no wait a minute what's the name of the song how dare you know the name of the song and I was like it's Unchained Melody like and they're like they're like are you sure and I was like positive my father was a DJ there's weird things I know and what I do know is in 1990 that was everybody's wedding song and I know the title fun fact maybe you did not know about saraphina her father was a DJ which is why I Think We Vibe so well I just I get it all of this whenever you're like I don't know about her no it makes sense it's part of the culture I completely understand it's packed it's the way it is yeah I knew the name of that song and no one else at my table did I love that you didn't offer it up or share first but once I got called out was like fine I will be generous that wasn't World kindness day like today I would have done it absolutely no question that's so awesome I'd like that game just because it does make you interact with the people at your table because you always associate a memory or a thought or a thing with a song and then you're there again being your 14-year-old self that was listening to this over and over because it was a breakup or a hard day or something music definitely touches us that way it definitely six in your brain yeah yeah I like sometimes for the good sometimes for not yeah there's plenty of not Goods trust me there are plenty of not Goods you're like this song again go away yeah well you know that's how I feel about most of the tiller Swift albums but it's fine I it's everybody has their likes actually I'm not like obsessed with with Swifty but I don't mind it it's a lot good there's a lot good therey it's it's boppy it's fine like I don't own any of her albums but when the songs come on I'm happy yeah right I like the Bobby pop Tunes it's the depressy ones that I'm just like oh all right like and I get it we've all been there in our personal journey of life where we've you know had some rough times but does a 10-minute ballot warrant that I don't know well that's where the artist part comes in that's it and that I understand as well yes yes you do sometimes you just got to be an artist and that's okay how's that going how does it stack up for you at the end of the year is it this time of year where everyone's like I need all of this or we working into q1 already well so most of my clients are already at q1 like Christmas is for work Christmas has pretty much already happened or or all the like thanksgiving's over all that's done those things the artwork for that are already created pretty much and you're you're moving on to the next stuff so right now we're already in like New Year what are we gon to do and that is fun for me to be like the future Caster yeah I I enjoy that because then when the actual holidays that I've already worked on roll around I can just enjoy them it's not like doublesided tape or anything it's like yeah I've I've already done this for work so now I can do this for me it's a lot of fun it is nice too um and I'm glad that your clients are ahead of the game it's also less stress when you're not backed up against a wall and this one's crying and coloring trying to get things done you you can do it now if you're trying to get something done for like the the next month's holiday season but like it's better to really plan ahead I just want to impress upon people that artwork is not created in a vacuum and it doesn't take two seconds and you can't just magic it up no not especially if you want it custom and exclusive to you or your brand like if you want it to be really specific then know it takes time oh ritual Cape Cod hi hi give a shout out to them because aren't you a part-time over there visitor an organizer that's my zen I love it I'm there on Fridays I get to burn incense and candles and um tell people where all the different types of books are we organize the bookshelf excellent I get to nerd out about super hippie dippy stuff which I love that's kind of fun though I mean that's like your space I think more and more we need to start taking that space for us as we're sitting here discussing World kindness day and everybody has their weird whatever that they love to do and makes them happy it puts them in a good spot all the people who walk in there are always like oh this place is so great and then you know they buy something that makes them happy yeah I had a conversation by the way with one of your former neighbors the other day that we were discussing a tea that you had had in your shop about your herbs and spices or something else that you had had in your shop and I was like oh okay Cody my son yeah decided to order Mullen tea um to help his cardiovascular health okay and you know usually when your 14-year-old decides to start doing some self whatever that they're ordering from Amazon you question what you're going to let them have oh you don't want to order that online no yeah no so I was like no and no and what is what did you buy no you can't have this until I do a little research then my friend Dr Jeff was like oh no I absolutely have all of that that's great I used to get it at the shop next to our ritual see and then you know he'd definitely not drink that tea he did something else with the tea but um it was good for exactly what my son wanted so I was proud of him for doing a little bit of research but also you should probably like don't buy it online because you just don't know or probably tell your parents before you start medically herbing yourself it's one of those things there are worse herbs he could be trying to get without your knowledge yeah see Mullen is an amazing Vaso dilator thank you smarty pants Holly is a SMY she really is she knows all the things I know I'm actually really sometimes I'm really embarrassed when I'm working and someone's like hey what's this and I'm like I'm not an encyclopedia like Holly hold please I can either Google this for you or if you give me a minute I'll go find Holly because I don't know it's awesome good morning Gloria good morning yeah Holly is definitely an in cedia fun stuff and I don't know if we have another date on the books Miss so we need to get one also because I really do enjoy your presence here well you could actually see Holly tomorrow night at the um so at the tomorrow night is the Cape Cod women's association's annual Holiday Market it's tomorrow night um from 6:00 to 8 at the cape Cotter and it's open to the public it's only $10 the money it goes towards the scholarship fund which helps women over the age of 25 to go back to school yay and uh so it's a good cause and then while you're there you could visit Holly's got a table there's a bunch of other folks who have tables there and it's like get some holiday shopping done or do a little self-care shop whatever you need so that's a fun night I'm such a last minute Shopper are you a planner you've got all this I am I am a planner I yeah or I would be stressed out like I enjoy the holiday season but partly is because I have a structure I'm a plan I have a map it's colorcoded I'm aware I know where we're going when I know the route to get there and I know who's going to be and what gifts I need to have and I do all of that well in advance I am so jealous of that I I strive I wish I hope someday that I'll be just like you but I'm not there it's just not my method well it's okay and I'm just an opposite Creator I'm a sloppy Creator it's just the way I am I'm way to this is why I do business service imagery it's like I'm way too type A to just be an artiste like I can't I like I have those moments but I can't be that person yeah I'm way too type A for that so that's why I'm like hi I'd like to design your logo you're right I'll take your head shot that's why I'm married to a Virgo he makes the plan I just create the plan it's czy well see Natasha and I are both super planners which is why we don't work together right we have to work yeah you got to know your space good morning o places spaces I heard you had big news Miss Lauren on your business front and I don't know when that's going to be public knowledge but feel free to let everybody know when it is and I'm also looking forward that you're going to be um entertaining us doing some fun Cs and things that are Christmas markets that are going to be happening in the mash comons good morning Dave hagner ritual $10 says sarapen has had her shopping done in March no not quite March more like me yeah you're not too D though like I I mean the plan for what I'm gonna buy is probably done good morning robertt what's going on thanks for joining us yeah it's Monday it's not super easy but when it's World kindness day and also Pursuit of Happiness week well all right so what are we doing to Pursuit happiness well I saw this like list you know me in my lists I love I love when I see them so I can WR with a good list but also so I can tear them apart be like that's not real nothing wrong with them existing so that we can tell you what's wrong about them it's the jump off it's always the jump off we usually don't get through the whole list too when it's and I we go off on a rabbit hole about something else at some point let's see how we do second full week of November pursue happiness in this 10-point plan I like a 10-point plan right who doesn't like a 10-point plan I might get to step three and decide this is not for me but a plan is always a good place to start from number one plant something and nurture it I'm not against it I plant it the nurturing part this is where having um someone who is an expert in outdoor Green Space as your partner is very helpful h can plant a seed into a little cup and make it a sprout like I can do that part I got it guys I germinated did it soon as it's past that point I'm out I can't do it I will forget I can't that's where but Natasha like doesn't have the patience for the seedling part yeah she's like get me outside like I just want to play in the dirt so that's where yeah it's totally like it's on you now go be free make us a garden and then you know when usually we we grow a lot of fruits and vegetables so like um you know then it's time to harvest the things and I'm like I will cook like now it's back it's my job again like give me those Peppers I'll make something I love it I feel like I um I planted my my daughter in the garden and I've nurtured her to be able to care for that she is my garden Witch she's out there making things alive except for her room plants which she just brought downstairs and dumped I've rehabbed those indoor plants and outdoor plants are not the same they're not they are they are totally different elements and I crushed the indoor plants outdoor plants nah I can do succulents because you barely have to take care of them they're very self-sufficient I've managed to kill a few my day ohus I do you even do that Stephanie I don't know that's not good count your blessings at least five at the end of each day oh I do that do you I do that but I I do that because I read a book the 40s something year old leapup yeah um which was hilarious if you haven't read that book so good but part of the the point of that book was her trying to figure out how to get act together and she started counting her blessings as if you will yeah whatever C the great things in your life at first they were all like I woke up the coffee didn't get go cold before I finished it like it was like really basic stuff and I was like oh I can get into that gratitude practice Yeah right it this this modom of it went okay I can be grateful for that and then by the end of the book she had like real things to be grateful for and you're laughing the entire time you're reading it so I was like all right I could take that on if you had heard her gratitude practice this morning coming down the stairs after her not not so very good bad Monday I had a morning but but I would be like I'm alive I did in fact get here right I spilled some but not all of the coffee see see these are just a different mindset the things that you have to have the conversation with yourself about for me it's really just managing my expectations I always have great expectations and then when it doesn't happen I'm like I knew it so Natasha's like that the expectation thing it's bad we went on the an amazing vacation and we went on this amazing vacation and we were walking through Paris and like this was many many years ago back before we owned a house but um she was like is that the Eiffel Tower is that it like so like she gets these expectations in her mind about these beautiful things and then she's very much disappointed and I was like you really need to learn see cuz both of our imaginations hey we're here I was just grateful to be in Paris and she was like is that it like that's great let's get a bagette like what are we doing you expectations people it's not healthy I really do I it is totally different good morning Patricia it's too cold to plant outside yes yes it is we're in that season now yeah I guess now that there's Frost although there's some flowers that it needs the frost in order for them to bloom The Following season oh so there's certain things that you would want to plant now so that they'll BL the spring nothing I know none of this all right number three take time to talk have an hourlong conversation with a loved one each week can you please talk about Betty oh my gosh I can yeah I was like I do that I think um so for those of you who don't know my grandmother is still alive which is amazing to be in my 40s and still have a living grandparent it's really remarkable I went home this past weekend and I saw her and she is basically reverting to being a teenager she's totally like this Goofy kid and I love everything about it she's my total inspiration for being a child at heart and uh I gave months ago I gave her a Mickey Mouse balloon and she still has it because it's just too cute to let go so now she has this thing for Mickey Mouse so I love that you dialogue the conversation that you have it's it's also because we get to see that that side but it's almost like you're setting yourself up with fun little memories for later absolutely I love going you yeah and so you'll be reminded when it's no longer there but it's also just kind of chronolog her her stage of Life at this point yeah and it's good for other people to see how much time you do spend with her but it's just employing her brain a lot I love working with our elders because of this so I gave her Mickey Mouse slippers and she was basically a child from that point on and but then she goes out of nowhere she's like do you know some of my doctors call me Elizabeth now she she's Betty but like you know her actual name's Elizabeth on you know her government name is Elizabeth which she's G her shirs and graphs but her mother's name was also Elizabeth so they differentiated by it was Elizabeth and Betty so she's been Betty her whole life and uh I was like well that is your name so of course they call you Betty I was like but we can change your chart if you want them to call you Betty like it's really easy to add that in like preferred name right they'll know to call you Betty moving forward or you could always correct them and she is definitely of an age where you don't correct especially a male professional like she just is nodding along so I was like we can change your chart it's really simple and she's like what if Betty's not my preferred name so this is new information I was like you're like I don't know I was like I don't know what's gonna happen next I was like okay so what is your preferred name what would you like people to call you and she goes hey you I was like just to be clear you're asking me that's in the chart to tell your doctors to refer to you as hey you and she's like yeah isn't that perfect well can you imagine and she just starts laughing then she proceeds to like hey you we need to get a brain scan hey you you got to go in for a heart check hey you you need new glasses just it's like any sort of Rand comedy for the day any sort of random medical speech she could think of she was like throwing hey you in it she was having the time of her life right but you got to share with other people and it was impactful to me I'm jealous of that I wish I had my nana to have hey you I'd be hey youing her up a storm cuz she was my person I love that though she she cracks me up I really enjoy we go home like once a month or so to visit with her and I love it well it's and it's good that you have the phone conversation so you are having conversations with people because it is good to keep you kind of Tethered to reality I think we have shied away from that in the last three years well it's this right this is what conversations look like now yeah bad I and I'm so guilty of it too my husband and I had to have that conversation of we're going to go out to eat and we're going to leave the the phone in the car and we're going to talk to each other I love that okay oh you had to like agree to it we both were like okay we do that it we're going out like if we're going to a restaurant and then we're going to enjoy that experience we'll put the phones away yeah it needs to but I feel like but at home well that's it as entrepreneurs as PE small business owners as people that just work constantly from gig to Gig or hustle to hustle or things that are going on or things that might have gone sideways we feel so Tethered to the phone it's not just like I'm over here playing Candy Crush I'm like scan I even had my out of office reply because again I knew I was going home to visit my grandmother yeah so I had my out of office reply on like Friday afternoon I put it on um and then I'm still checking to make sure nothing has come up that needs to be addressed in fact I was sitting here this morning before we went on air and there was an email from a client I was like I'm going to quickly answer this yeah right you're always working Karen said it's also a new moon the perfect time to set intention make a change be the change be kind I love this that is good right and uh Lauren says phones are not at the table when we eat we share stories you're so good I know I know I need to be better about it I'm telling you this is this is why we have this dialogue so that I can remind myself that we're working on that these are emerging skills um number four phone a friend with whom you've not spoken to for a while and arrange a Meetup I've been doing that bit I usually do that at the end of the year CU I'm like where are my besties I haven't heard from them in a while or I haven't checked in on them and you know I've got two two real people from like my entire Walk of Life that I still check in with there's no pre like no qualifying statements no like we just get right into the meat of it what's happening give me the dirt give those real friends when you know have be like I'm sorry I know it's been a while blah you don't have to do that you can just be like hey I'm I'm talking now it doesn't have to be an extra hour of that conversation what's going on with you what have I missed it's awesome I know and I've seen that Meme with all the charts and graphs and things on fire and you try to explain to someone in a long time that you haven't had that conversation I sent that to my cousin the other day and she was like that was me talking to you in the car well I was eating and crying like yes but that's what we're here for that's what we do um number five give yourself a treat every day and take the time to really enjoy it no what does that mean I know I need to disavow that treat means food I'm working on that yeah that immediately what I thought I was like chocolate right well yeah or if or can it be coffee can my coffee be my treat that's it take a second maybe even like a good book a happy thought something fuzzy pet your cat for a minute sit with a comfy blanket whatever there so def the def the definition of treat can can be healthy definition well the my crazy treat for myself on Saturday was to tear through every item of my room because we got a new piece of workout equipment well since my daughter has left the home every single room in my house is upended my husband's moving his office into that space this one's moving here this one's moving everything and everything is out of place and the only thing that I kept repeating in my brain was that French saying of I can't pronounce it right but is it me and play me and place where everything has its place before you begin to work okay kind of like when you have all your tools ready to go and I just kept saying in my brain me and play me and play nothing's in place nothing is in place for me right now I'm going to lose my mind so by the end of the day my treat was just squaring away my bed area so I had all the space around my bedroom looked nice and tidy my room smelled good I had fresh sheets I had a sanctuary and that was my treat for the day need right you need one safe space was in a world of chaos if you one cozy location I'm going to be like I'll be here until the rest of all this is gone or it looks like I have a path to somewhere else so we do something in our house we try we try to do it at least once a week so it's called hug which is um a d Danish word and essentially it means cozy but that's not a direct it's not a perfect translation but but it's like you know instead of having harsh lighting you have like soft lighting or or candles or something and then um like I have twinkly lights up and some candles burning and then we're like under cozy blankets and you know the room's a little chilly right you know and we'll we'll watch something that's like funny or or just like happy delightful kind of a whatever and that's that's who and we try to do that at least once a once a week or so it's it makes a difference just having like a little time set aside for I just want to be comfortable yeah a soft connection I just want to be like H I like that yeah so that's a good treat to give yourself have a good laugh at least once a day uh that is demanded and if you come to any of our fun shows it will happen I promise for you guar laughter I guarantee you laughing at me with me however we're going to get it done laugh is healthy either way I do not care how it happens if I can be the Catalyst to your laughter I say yes to that also get physical exercise for half an hour three times a week how's your physical therapy going my friend I really miss walking um I for for those of you who remember the last time I was on the show I talked about how I fell on Labor Day weekend and made um Modern Art out of my kneecaps so awful turns out I was completely accurate on that statement so I had actually misaligned my kneecap and sprained and sprained everything around the knee so I thought it would get better after a week I was being super stubborn and it's been and like two months later I'm still limping and in a lot of pain so I finally broke down went to the doctor and asked her to look at it I just thought like i f down go boom right it'll get better right and my father kindly reminded me that when you fall down go boom in your 40s you you really need to see a doctor so thanks Dad like I'm not wasn't ready for this it's been a month like can you just let me ease into the 40s please thanks so so I go and she's like yeah your your patella is misaligned and I said pardon my ignorance my what now and um she's like your kneecap and because of the Sprain and strain like everything swollen the knee Camp can't the knee cap can't go back into place so I'm in physical therapy right now to get that fixed and my physical therapist informed me that PT stands for pain and torture and um I was like that is just rude that does not make people want to come back to you even though you need well the first one was she was so nice to me on the first round that I was like this is fine I can do this this is what's gonna fix it great yeah round two upped it to 11 and no no I was like oh now I see why this is pain torture but again I'm gonna do the thing so I can get back to walking and moving because I miss it so much right I know I I've been uh back on my personal Journey as well with Fitness well you just got new equipment so what was the equipment oh my husband got a rowing machine because he doesn't like my bike okay so now we have like a a workout room okay that I have to walk in and out of to get out of my bedroom so it's kind of like well so that's good so get it done a visual cue every day that's nice I did the rowing thing with pelaton yesterday got to say loved it why did I love it because they had a bigger roll on the rowing machine for the class and I was like yes inclusivity and thank you for watching somebody else that's not a twig tell me how to work out or remove my body I appreciated it I was like I will watch all of your videos I'll download all of your videos I support you just because she made it fun she made it funny and made me feel like okay I could do this yay although I loved the rowing machine way better than the bike also because my husband got off there like he was dying because he has zero core and I was like I can could do this for days much different because women have different muscles in that respect so very much enjoyed the little rower thing very excited to have it I need to create my own o places well you're gonna have to show me how to do that Lauren we'll have to talk about that now what else is on our list smile at or say hello to a stranger at least once a day I do try to do that I have that kind of neighborhood where people are always walking their dogs and I know they live somewhere near me but I do it's not like one of the direct houses around me right so they're strangers that I see almost every day well they're familiar faces yeah or like I'll go to the post office and I'll say hello to whoever's at the post office so yeah because you're mailing stuff yeah try to do the things right cut your TV viewing in half I've definitely done that yeah all right I listen to audiobooks now instead of having like the TV on in the background yeah I don't like anything that's really on so there you go well the I don't know whether the writer stri or whatever it was but I'm now both of the strikes are over so give it a few months and we're going to be barded with content we're right back on that BS yep and spread kindness do a good turn for someone every day I love that they can't be that hard they can be little things they be that hard exactly hold the door open for the person behind you y it's little stuff MH we set up a a corkboard yesterday over at knockabout and we have uh just buy a Veta beer and we're we're honoring veterans daily well because it's right by the base and I know we get a lot of traffic from from the base over there and if you're a veteran and you just want to try a beer go have a beer on us there are receipts up there pick one and try the beer that's on draft that's awesome right and also if you're over there you can buy somebody else a beer it can do it if you're desperate for something you just want to have a night out and talk to someone and if you if you're like H I don't have the money to go and do that like there's a thousand other things you can do that are nice go on Google or or Facebook and give a small business a positive review I like that just go give somebody five stars and be like this place is great and they always have what I'm looking for just like something really that cost you nothing other than a couple of minutes of your time it trust me it makes the small business owner thrilled when they get that review but also you've done something nice so and I've seen that Meme a million times and it makes my heart happy every time I see it I'm like yes please it's true so think about like your favorite small business if you've never given them a review before or if you have but you could go to a different place to do it like you already gave them a Google review go give them a Facebook review like go do it yeah I agree all of that um you have got some fun little festive holiday offerings as small business owners as entrepreneurs we get flipping busy and it doesn't matter what time of year it's true we're busy all the time but you still want to do the things right like first thing you came in and I'm so thankful that you noticed a little change in some of our marketing and branding beautiful stuff all coming out for the Christmas Market looks great had to decide that I don't have time for like it was one of those conversations you have with yourself you're like yes can I do it all absolutely should I be doing it all no no I should not at some point your own health has to be a concern right you need to be able to sleep and drink water and and go for walks and take care of yourself and sometimes that means Outsourcing and I've been so lacking in the self-care Department to the point where like I sprayed my hair for Halloween and it was orange for a full week and I was like I'm fine everything's fine and then my friends over at sea salt are like you're Stephanie get it here just get it here and sit for an hour get your hair fixed yeah right we'll just make it all one color like you don't even have we're not going to get fancy here with this we're gonna make it manageable and Danny was like oh you need to come in and we'll do this and we'll do that and Joy's like oh yeah because she's really good about appointments it's like if you make them I will come that's the difference so they set me all up so I'm on a schedule there you go to do things if I'm on a schedule and it's in my phone it's gonna happen but if it's not scheduled it's not happening that's one of those things you can kick the can right like oh I need I do want to do that but down the line it goes and next month so I've really harnessed the I'm gonna move my body more and I'm going to start taking care of this skin sleeve that I lug around everywhere all day every day it needs to be cared for a little bit more than it has been so I've been scheduling and blocking off in that time but losing that time I'm losing time to work so you know hiring people has not been an amazing thing I've heard from every single business owner how difficult it is to find humans that actually want to work yeah well it's doing the job that you need done I think it's finding the match I think there's plenty of people looking for work and then the work that's out there isn't a good match for them and vice versa yes and so I think that's the huge disconnect in our community right now is like there's plenty of people looking for work but the thing they're qualified to do maybe isn't available and then the thing you're looking to find that perfect fit employee and that might not be the best well that's it you can't fit the puzzle into the wrong piece right I mean it will look it will fit for a little while but it doesn't belong there both sides are complaining right now so that's got to be it it's just a mi mixed match so we'll we'll get there eventually but meanwhile that's what the gig is for right but that's here we are in the gig economy and this is what we're doing small jobs for people when we can fill in and I've got to give a huge shout out to Nina you've been amazing you've been so helpful and uh I'm really excited to continue to work with you if you need things in the art Department if you need anyone just that extra person to be like can you look at this can you fix this can you can you just make me this here here it is this is your lady right here images by saraphina so i' I've been working on a lot of things that um when when a client contracts me to make something I always give them like maybe four or five drafts right you get like the F the first draft is a bunch of Concepts they're like rough drafts basically and I'm like you know you had said you wanted um a a non-denominational holiday greeting that you're going to put in an email blast to your entire list and so I've given you like six choices and you go yep Choice number three that's the one I want great we refine it you know add your branding or whatever but like all the other ones that were in that draft just sit around like I've done the work but it wasn't the one that went over the finish line for the client so I had this like pile for lack of a better term because it's all digital but I had like this pile of of holiday cards or or artwork that could become holiday cards or email blasts for Holiday whatever and and over the years and I mean I realized I had over 50 drafts of holiday greetings that were just sitting in my computer doing nothing so I did a thing and this is the first time ever done this and I put a page on my website where you can go and look at those so those are the things that were not like the client didn't want them they they chose the other drafts they're still perfectly good and they're they're sitting there and they basically have this gallery of all these pictures and they're all and it's different holiday some of it is specific to Christmas or Hanukkah some of them is you know seasons greetings or warm wishes or you know all the sort of the catchall phrase is for the winter time so they're all there some of them are funny some of them are cute some of them are classical like there's all these different ones um and and they're just sitting there so if you are sitting here going I'm stressed out and I don't have time to make a holiday card or to design that holiday greeting that I want to send via email or get it printed or whatever you want I already did it for you there's over 50 of them already sitting on my website waiting for you and because essentially they're already done I put them at a I've never sold anything this cheap it's only 9.99 this is like I've never had a product available that was that inexpensive so it's completely approachable I just love that you can buy that piece of artwork and then reuse it you can reuse it for your designs you can print your holiday cards you can put it on social media on my website you'll see it's Watermark but like when you purchase it you'll get an email from me and it'll be non-watermarked it doesn't say me on there at all so you can do with it what you will yeah go be free you can put it online you can put it on your socials you can email it you can go to your favorite print shop and get it printed as a card I don't care it's yours perfect and this yeah this time of year when you're just so busy and you're like now I got to go deal with this now you can just buy it print it one thing off your list absolutely finished and I'm GNA put the link in the little chatty chat forward it to whatever your favorite print shop is and then be done with it and if you don't have a favorite print shop and you need if you're here on Cape I've got a couple great shops here I work with or um you know if you'd prefer to do it online I I have recommendations on which ones online are better than others so have a conversation with me and I will tell you like depending on your goals I can put you in the right direction but I don't offer printing services but I can recommend them that's it that's it that's we're prisms what do you need I give it to you here you go take there's our little there's our video I don't I can't find this I'll drop it in the chat oh yeah don't worry about it you can drop it in the chat at any point just look for it a little bit later today not a problem promise yes but if you go to my images by sarapen docomomo want to thank our sponsor Habitat for Humanity 35 years they've been in business Building Homes changing lives preserving our community amaz I love them and their restore is awesome please support their restore also they they come and they take you're getting a new kitchen you're getting a new something they will take used cabinets that have a second line their train will come in their volunteers will take them out of your home so they do the demo for you so you're getting rid of 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things in our community if you've got something in the community that you really want to talk about it's affecting you or maybe you've got a great business idea that you want to talk to people about this seat is always open for somebody fabulous and saraphina is that somebody fabulous right now and you you are a great person to bop tips off of like I love how you're always helping you know what I mean you hear an idea you can't help but be like maybe I'm saving the world one pixel at a time right maybe if we turn this it'll look that way maybe if you add a little pop of color so I have some tips so if you are a small business owner or if solar preneur if you're out there trying to figure out how you can like sort of capture the holiday market and you're like oh no it's too late it's not too late there are definitely some easy tips you could do now that would help your um your holiday marketing so uh first of all I have a sale item that gets people in the door like I don't know having all your old artwork on sale for cheap on your own website9 um so have like you know have um basically a lower cost item that is flashy and easy and and gets people through the door gets people looking at you so that's that's thing one um and have something if that doesn't work then have something that is like makes a great gift like what can you be talking about publicly that you provide that makes a good gift for someone that can be a service that can be an item it doesn't really matter but everyone's starting to think about gift shopping other than me because I've been done since March thank you olly um but if you're thinking about gift get people out there you know so you have this thing that this is a good stocking stuffer or this is a great you know great gift is simple small easy whatever that kind of thing um and I just said everyone needs to buy a holiday card but honestly if you have a list of clients that you've worked with and you want to send them a greeting you could do it for Thanksgiving instead of oh I like that so you could send that that annual card that you might send in December send it for Thanksgiving say like I'm grateful for you thank you for being a good client whatever and then your top of mind for them as holiday season approaches oh so smart little way to sneak in a little gratitude and notice me yes and it makes sense right because you're thankful at Thanksgiving so it totally works it's also more approachable more people celebrate Thanksgiving than any of the other holidays um you know in December so that's great way to just sort of stay top of mind and you know maybe get a little more business in December let's just end of the year too and as people are making their taxable donations and maybe they thought G I need a little web work done G I need a little artwork done for 2024 oh I need a little this done for whatever once the Holiday Rush is over we're going to be revamping everything like it's a good time to start now people are having a little bit more funds even though they're scaring us with Doom and Gloom a 50% down for retail blah ra they do it every single year it's always the same everybody's short on dough this time of year because we're spending a lot of dough this time of year it's just what happens so I know you talked about this on the show earlier um not today but like on a different one is that the the the way we're wanting to approach the holidays as a as a consumer is is changing we're going away from the light bright white beige and we're going back deep into the hardcore Nostalgia and you know as as a as a society maybe you hate that but like in general that's where the trend is heading so go for it dive deep into the sleigh yeah just do it use the use like the hard like cartoon bright Reds and greens just like bring it on May your logo may or may not be appropriate to change for the holidays it really depends on what you do and and and so it works for some it doesn't work for like giving lemy a little little hat is cute but like not every logo that makes sense so correct be be cautious about doing that sort of stuff but in general if you are putting stuff out there for the holidays just go for it go for the bright beautiful colors everyone wants to think about yester year at this point so just do it and um the other thing is make a cute holiday video get dressed up like your favorite holiday character whatever that might be could be the turkey could be the manora could be Santa I don't care Jack Skellington I don't care absolutely it could just dress up as some sort of go holiday character and do a short form video and go out there and just own it be a silly happy part of the joyful season I'm I'm a fan of that I recently as I was talking about cleaned out my room and got my little area the amount of costumes that I have I'm a costume reuser oh yeah like I have I have a trunk now it's a trunk that I had to go and employ my 14-year-olds to lift up and put away for myself and I was like this doesn't mean it's a way for the SE it's just a way for now yeah be on hold for when I need you to reach that again mom you're so short so short I don't know how I this giant boy that I now have that reaching grabby claw doesn't pull a trunk off a shelf you still need the giant human boy I'm going to need one of those like Library ladders to get up to it to My Walkin at this point because it's ridiculous the amount of costumes that I have and every year I add a few more I'm like I never have enough let's add some more and then I found even more ones that I put away for this season that I forgot about I'm like well we'll bring those back next year not a problem the amount of stuff that I have is ridiculous I'm trying to be better about where it's located though so I remember it yes you don't buy it three times that's was also another great part about being organized I'm getting there I have one black cloak that my mom made for me when I was in a play in high school I was in a play in high school and I needed a black Co cloak for that play I have used that for almost every Halloween scent so it's like done we're going on 25 years now that black cloak has been in so many Halloween costumes I love it little bit of Dracula in your life got to have it all day every day it's perfect Mary thanks for joining us oh adult costume swap at'll places spaces that's a fun idea I like that I know because yeah why I I do the book exchange thing all the time like so that makes sense doing it with other stuff I also found a pair of football cleats upstairs I think um we've got a couple of leagues for little people that they might need it brand new never been used I was saving them for a season and then all of a sudden he got to be size 15 there's got to be an organization there's got to be an organization that might facilitate that yeah totally I don't know what it would be though I really wish that we had some more Community organizations that there was just one one list that everybody could be on the Hub of yeah yeah that would be nice like kind of like an Angie's List for all of all of Cape Cod small businesses would be lovely let's let's go ahead and make that in our spare time on it it's an idea and if you hear it and you're like I could do that then get on it please do it we will all support you whatever it is that there's a bunch of directories but they're all you know specific to whatever Niche and like to have one overreaching one would be nice yeah because I feel like where we're at it's always me mine um I came up with this idea this is our as this is our purview not yours I'm tired of this I wish that we could all just work across the aisle together I don't understand why this is a problem because we're all trying to live here right and survive on our little island and this is what we're trying to do here our door is open to everybody absolutely everybody so I'm Gonna Be the Change I'm starting here that's all all right I like it yeah I don't have time for a directory though but if you want to make one I will happily put it we can be ideas person but we're busy running our own businesses we can't do it all folks this is why we Outsource we% now we've got our uh we've got a Thanksgiving thing that is coming up this Sunday where we're repurposing our Thanksgiving meals somebody posted something recently where they felt like all of Thanksgiving dishes are mush and I'm like you're not wrong like stuffing mashed potato everything squashed and mushed I mean it's cuz you're inviting everyone and includes the people don't have teeth anymore is that what it is cuz you love those people and you want them to eat too so I'm I've got Jenny wheeler from The Family Table collaborative I've got Mari senet who runs Cap Cod dining at home and everywhere else I've got Chef Joe ellia who works at the tech uh who's the chef over there that are all picking one Thanksgiving side and repurposing it to another fabulous dish we're gonna have recipe cards on Sunday over at knockabout and that will'll watch them in the creation of their dish I've got to go and film them this week in their kitchens creating this for us so I'm really looking forward to uh Jenny has some of the best different foods I love going to the Family Table collaborative and enjoying the meals there and she always says eat the rainbow and she truly means it she slides vegetables into dishes that you're like how did that work but it works it's amazing it's so good delicious yeah every single time yeah it really is and so um we're we're going to have some beers and that's going to benefit The Family Table collaborative because I feel like everybody deserves a nice hot meal when you need one and they are there for you no questions asked you can walk in and just say I'm hungry and they will feed you and I love that I think that that's the way it should be and I'm I'm super grateful that um that you're there Jenny because food insecurity is at an all-time high and as we're getting into the season of festivities and we're you know not everybody has family not everybody has all of these things not everybody has any extra anything and groceries cost ,000 now I'm just one of two people and I can't believe how much I spent on groceries and I I can't imagine having kids and trying to do a big holiday like we had that moment yesterday where cliff and I went grocery shopping we ate prior to going grocery shopping so we didn't buy the it wasn't though because I don't even know what we bought we bought so many things and our kids couldn't wait to open absolutely all of the things to have one of last night I woke up to I was like they they're not even stoned they're just like little hungry growing animals in there having one or two of everything because it's new well yeah I mean I'm a grown-up and I'm the one who does the grocery shopping and I'm not g to lie but I do that sometimes so everything was open from 17 bags of nuts to parois everything was open last night I was like oh my God that's great I love everything about that God love kids I'm so glad we just I just spent $200 on containers so all the halves of the bags can be salvaged somewhere you just need a clippy not my house they can't be B that's a whole step the clippy they can't do that they can put the container back on but they can't they can't clip or find the clip or put it back in the drawer why you get the ones with the magnets that they're on the fridge you can find them don't a magnetic fridge oh it's really takes away a lot of real estate in my kitchen inter it's very annoying I didn't know people like you existed it's a wooden cover on my fridge I don't have a magnet anything magnet don't do wood all right interesting huh I put my magnets on my garage door what else to do with them I'm like these are cute I'll put them on my garage door H right it's a whole level of real estate I don't have are these magnetized you can put them yes I can actually these are magnetized we can do it we can we can make this happen for sure I got ideas I she really does please support images by saraphina you can go on her website she's done a lot of hard work in making sure that you don't have to work so hard pre-designed cards and also an art Department in a little box fixing the world one pixel at a time as she says that's right anything else you want people to know about you miss thing I'm Ao no I don't know now that's it graphic design photography small business I can help we really appreciate you go forward and have a fabulous week spread the kindness that we started here today it is World kindness day Pursuit of Happiness week what are you pursuing that makes you happy I definitely always like to give a pause before we leave to just get your brain rolling are you pursuing something that makes you happy I think we very much are not spending enough time on the things that bring us joy you can do it that's your homework report back tomorrow I'm sliding new things in every day and I don't like the growth but it needs to happen Force growth needs to happen you got to do it exactly Hank will be on the show with me tomorrow uh we've got a week chalk full of activities I'm working on a better calendar of events on our website that's my to-do list today so if anybody's got any good um suggestions for programs right now I'm not loving the tofi situation I am working with a events.com but if there's just one good calendar and I don't have a WordPress site so don't even give me any plugins my husband will lose his mind just don't do it do you need it to be clickable is that part of the problem I would like it to be clickable because I feel like we've got so many great hosts out there and Bri's got a new night at Cap Cod beer on Thursdays that I want people to know about and we've got a lot of holiday popups that are happening and strolls and other our Christmas markets and just like fun vendors so I want it to be interactive so you can plan for like I've got a free Tuesday in December what's happening nice you know so it's not so like waiting for me to put out a schedule or trying to find me if you're looking for a day or you've got you know four four hours with your girlfriends and you want something to do that's fun and like not heavy lifting that's what I'm working on right now just in case you were curious thank you for listening to us on Lemon ado.com if you're watching this show right now please subscribe like our YouTube channel also if you're listening to us make sure whenever you get somewhere safe while you're riding around and doing what you're doing uh subscribe to our YouTube channel and also you can find us on H Roku TV Amazon Alexa play lemon Ado radio enable your skill today we thank you we'll talk to you soon and uh I'll see you out in the world everybody trivia tonight over at dos that's from 6:00 until 8 I haven't even worked on the themes yet but I can guarantee you it will 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